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#1 Yucatan4Me

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Posted 05 March 2018 - 09:36 PM

Hi to all!  I'm glad to have found you.  A wonderful person on expatdotcom gave me your address.  I love this forum; flames and all.  Tell it like it is, don't hold back.  I'm a big girl and I should be able to separate the wheat from the shaft -- on a good day anyway. 

 

I'm moving to Merida in the very near future.  I'll be flying to Merida soon; once I get organized and know who, what, where, and how I should proceed.  The best made plans change, but I do need a plan so I'm not running in circles once I'm there.  I'm hoping I'll be there to put everything in place within the month, but it seems I have more and more to do with each passing day.  My list of "need to do's" is growing.

 

My mom was my dad's primary caregiver and she passed away.  My husband has monumental health problems.  Guess who will die first, them or I?  As hard as you think caregiving is, it's much harder than you can ever imagine.  I'm not putting them in a nursing home; I know what institutionalized care is and warehousing my family is not my style.  I have options now -- move so I can afford to hire help.  God willing, all of us can live a decent life enjoying the brief time we have together. Soon I won't have the energy to do this and all of us will lose: I'll be too sick to help them and they will no longer have an advocate to keep them living at home.

 

I would like to buy a home (possibly 2 side by side), but I'm not opposed to renting. I don't like paying someone's mortgage, and the money I spend on rent could be more than taking the bite on selling and moving again -- it's a roll of the dice anyway you look at it.  It looks like I may be able to afford 2 new homes next to one another so I can actually have some kind of private life and a little sanity time.  There are so many things to consider.  My to do list is looking more like my college thesis than a to do list :wacko:

 

I'm looking forward to "meeting" the online expats here.  Y'all are very interesting and nice folks.


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Posted 07 March 2018 - 03:31 PM

A few things to keep in mind:

1) If you speak Spanish, finding home health care help will be much easier/more affordable. Likewise, if your Dad and husband speak Spanish, that helps, too.  There are not a lot of health-care home workers who speak English.  Many doctors do speak English, but support staff not so much.  This includes hospital staff.

2) Be sure and have a plan for medical costs -- the public health system here is very limited regarding home health care services, and waits are long for specialists, etc.  US Medicare does not cover expenditures while living out of the US, and private insurance here (and some of the public options) exclude preexisting conditions,  Costs of medications/equipment can be a lot when you're paying completely out of pocket, and some costs may be higher than in the US -- but you'll be able to check on that on your visit. 

3) On your exploration visit, I would make a priority of visiting local doctors and talking to them specifically about the issues you'll be dealing with, and availability of services and medication.  It would be well worth the cost of an appointment.  Don't rely on pharmacists, since often the people staffing pharmacies are not experienced pharmacists.

4) when scoping out areas to live, be sure that you take into consideration proximity to hospitals, bus routes (for caregivers -- many working people here do not have private transportation)

., etc. 

Good luck on your plans!



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Posted 07 March 2018 - 04:45 PM

You plan to be here for a month and get everything organized is an aggressor timeline. Be prepared to run around in circles, or get run around in circles. When we first moved here over 10 years ago, we were happy when we got one thing done in a day. Now that’s no issue but we still get excited when everything on a days to-do list gets done with no hiccups, but we speak Spanish now. If you are fluent in Spanish, you will have an easier time getting things done.

If you would consider a move to Progreso, we have a house with 2 attached apartments for sale. One apartment is fully wheelchair accessible and the main house could be with minimal modification.

Good luck!

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#4 Yucatan4Me

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Posted 08 March 2018 - 09:12 AM

A few things to keep in mind:

1) If you speak Spanish, finding home health care help will be much easier/more affordable. Likewise, if your Dad and husband speak Spanish, that helps, too.  There are not a lot of health-care home workers who speak English.  Many doctors do speak English, but support staff not so much.  This includes hospital staff.

2) Be sure and have a plan for medical costs -- the public health system here is very limited regarding home health care services, and waits are long for specialists, etc.  US Medicare does not cover expenditures while living out of the US, and private insurance here (and some of the public options) exclude preexisting conditions,  Costs of medications/equipment can be a lot when you're paying completely out of pocket, and some costs may be higher than in the US -- but you'll be able to check on that on your visit. 

3) On your exploration visit, I would make a priority of visiting local doctors and talking to them specifically about the issues you'll be dealing with, and availability of services and medication.  It would be well worth the cost of an appointment.  Don't rely on pharmacists, since often the people staffing pharmacies are not experienced pharmacists.

4) when scoping out areas to live, bue sure that you take into consideration proximity to hospitals, bus routes (for caregivers -- many working people here do not have private transportation)

., etc. 

Good luck on your plans!

Thank you for the tips!  The information is very helpful.  As much as I would like to live in a quiet suburban area I assumed that would not be the best choice at this time.  A few have recommended the Altabrisa area of Merida and it looks like that may be a good choice.  A lot depends on the available housing.


What draws me in is that a trip is a leap in the dark. It's like a metaphor for life. You set off from home, and in the classic travel book, you go to an unknown place. You discover a different world, and you discover yourself. Paul Theroux


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Posted 08 March 2018 - 09:15 AM

You plan to be here for a month and get everything organized is an aggressor timeline. Be prepared to run around in circles, or get run around in circles. When we first moved here over 10 years ago, we were happy when we got one thing done in a day. Now that’s no issue but we still get excited when everything on a days to-do list gets done with no hiccups, but we speak Spanish now. If you are fluent in Spanish, you will have an easier time getting things done.

If you would consider a move to Progreso, we have a house with 2 attached apartments for sale. One apartment is fully wheelchair accessible and the main house could be with minimal modification.

Good luck!

 

That sounds good but I would like to be closer to medical.  I'm a beach person and If it were just me... :)


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Posted 08 March 2018 - 11:41 PM

Kudos to you for caring for your family. Its something I wouldn't be able to do. If you're moving to make it affordable, you're also moving away from all that is familiar. Given the stress and health problems of caregivers, it's important that you have a plan in place for what happens to your loved ones if something happens to you.

There is a facility just outside of Merida in Dzitya that is a nursing home that specializes in dementia and end of life, and also offers respite so you can get a break. http://www.meridahea...om.mx/home.html

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Posted 09 March 2018 - 10:51 AM


Kudos to you for caring for your family. Its something I wouldn't be able to do. If you're moving to make it affordable, you're also moving away from all that is familiar. Given the stress and health problems of caregivers, it's important that you have a plan in place for what happens to your loved ones if something happens to you.

There is a facility just outside of Merida in Dzitya that is a nursing home that specializes in dementia and end of life, and also offers respite so you can get a break.
http://www.meridahealthcare.com.mx/home.html

 

 

Thank you Joanne!  That is very helpful.  I've seen several new homes/communities advertising in that area. When I looked on Google maps it looked as if it may be too far out to live; finding help, doctors, shopping etc.  Do you think that area is located reasonably close and finding services is feasible? 


What draws me in is that a trip is a leap in the dark. It's like a metaphor for life. You set off from home, and in the classic travel book, you go to an unknown place. You discover a different world, and you discover yourself. Paul Theroux


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Posted 09 March 2018 - 01:46 PM

There is a facility just outside of Merida in Dzitya that is a nursing home that specializes in dementia and end of life, and also offers respite so you can get a break. http://www.meridahea...om.mx/home.html

 

 

 

What an interesting mix of language on that page!  You happen to know if they have English-speaking caregivers in that place?



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Posted 09 March 2018 - 08:01 PM

Dzitya is very close to Merida and has developed and grown a lot in the past few years. I wouldn't hesitate to live there.

I have no personal knowledge of the nursing home I linked but have heard very good things about it. And yes, they speak English.

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#10 Yucatan4Me

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Posted 10 March 2018 - 10:46 AM

What an interesting mix of language on that page!  You happen to know if they have English-speaking caregivers in that place?

 There page does say they do; how limited that may be is entirely different question :)


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Posted 11 March 2018 - 04:50 PM

 There page does say they do; how limited that may be is entirely different question :)

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There is someone on Facebook, (Glen Somebody?) on one of the Merida pages, who placed his Dad at the facility. Dad didn't speak Spanish but the staff spoke English. Despite his dementia, there was no issue communicating. They were very pleased with the care he received. If for some reason my Mom was here, that is where she would be living. 


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